the power of words

I don't want to use the word "drama" to describe situations or people in general anymore. According to Wikipedia "drama is used colloquially to refer to unnecessary emotional turmoil, such as that created through social events or gossip or any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results.

One only needs to walk down the street to encounter someone talking about not wanting to be involved with this situation or that person because of the "drama." Check online personals and casual conversations with friends and the word invariably comes up to describe what they don't want in a lover or about a conflict with a friend.

It seems that we use this word to describe everything we don't like about relationships. Have we lost our ability to use words effectively? Have we gotten lazy? We use the word "fuck-ed" to describe just about everything. We use the word "love" so often that it may have lost its meaning (eg. I LOVED that movie!) If words/language are a reflection of society - has our existence lost meaning?

Or, have we (the western world) become distracted by extraneous things - things that aren't really important. It's not the basic needs stuff that we apply the word "drama" to it's the "unnecessary emotional turmoil" that we are referring to.

Or, are we trapped in a society that is addicted to unnecessary drama? According to sixwise "Manufactured" or "self-created" drama includes mind games, temper tantrums, screaming matches, rages, and other negative behaviors that tend to occur with alarming frequency in the vast majority of unhealthy, non-nurturing relationships."

Are we obsessed with it?

The author, Rachel G. Baldino goes on to say "The older we get, the more we come to realize that real life provides us with more than enough genuine dramas and actual crises (in the form of illnesses, the deaths of loved ones, job losses, financial struggles, etc.). Of course, this means that there is absolutely no need for us to add any needless, manufactured melodrama into the mix."

The author suggests the first step toward dropping the drama, is that "if you spend too much time dwelling on your partner's [friends] faults-rather than on his or her strengths-you might just lose sight of why you [cared for them] fell in love in the first place." She says: "Some people who feel bored, emotionally numb, lonely, or unfulfilled in some way tend to pick fights with those they love in an attempt to escape their sense of emotional numbness or emptiness"

Are we (western culture) so "bored, emotionally numb, lonely, or unfulfilled" that we pursue and perpetuate this unecessary tormoil 'cause we have lost touch with what is truly important?

I figure that if I refuse to use the word I can in some way shift my world. Of course, this technique (choosing carefully the words you speak/think/use) can only work if you believe in the power of words.